Support for Angel Blakley's Funeral Costs

Hello friends and family,

My husband Nicholas and I have recently lost our child through a miscarriage. We were so excited to welcome a new life into the world but unfortunately a few days before Mother’s Day I started to miscarry. The miscarriage lasted between May 2nd until the 8th of May where I finally passed a full pregnancy sac, with our baby intact.

As we entered our second trimester we were finally able to be seen for our 1st ultrasound, we were excited and nervous. Sadly, we were told that the pregnancy would likely be non-viable. On the 2nd of May Nicholas found me in the bathroom where I was miscarrying and feeling so weak that I fainted, Nicholas called for ambulance and I was transported to the hospital, where I received little care and almost no answers. The following day my doctor called to check in on me and she advised that I go directly to the Emergency Room again because things were not looking any better and I had not yet passed the pregnancy sac.

At this second hospital we were seen promptly however after having an ultrasound we were told that I’d need to be admitted as I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy that was attached to my recent c-section scar. This meant that I’d need a dilation & curettage surgical procedure, which was most likely to lead to a hysterectomy; since the new scar tissue could very likely hemorrhage. The life threatening circumstances made for this hospital to not feel comfortable in performing the operation so they called for a bigger more equipped hospital to admit me. Once the 3rd hospital accepted me I was transferred. I was not only sad, scared, but also leaving my two boys back home while I went off to a hospital further away from home. I was leaving with no idea whether I’d make it out alive, or if I would lose my uterus. This would be detrimental as Nicholas and I wish to have more children in the future.

After the team of doctors discussed my situation and took into account our desire to have more children, they opted for treating me with methotrexate, a chemotherapy injection sometimes used to treat ectopic miscarriages. I was monitored for a day or so, until I expressed my concerns about being away from our two boys back home. I was stable enough to be discharged on the 6th. Ultrasound showed that I still had not passed the pregnancy sac.

At home, I tried to rest and keep my mind occupied, tending to my boys was helpful but I was still saddened by the new turn of events in my life. On the 8th I finally passed the pregnancy sac, I was glad that I would no longer need surgery, or another round of methotrexate. But I had officially lost my child.

Nicholas and I have named this baby Angel Blakley. As Catholics, we believe that life begins at conception, and that once a life is lost, the body must be laid to rest on sacred grounds so we will be burying baby Angel at the Holy Cross Cemetery. However, we are asking from some help from our loved ones to cover some of the costs for the funeral and burial. We would much rather have our child healthy and alive but we are doing our best to do what is right by our faith to keep our child close to home.

We appreciate any help, and are thankful for everyone who helped us pray during our hospital stay. God bless!

Love,

Stefanie Blakley