Support for Bob's Memorial and Funeral Costs

Most of the people who end up on this page already know me but for those of you who don't my name is Molly I'm 28 years old and Bob is my dad. My dad was the kind of guy that would give you the shirt off his back. He was kind, funny, generous, talented and smart. Anytime you saw him he most likely had his little sidekick Mucky with him. This news May Come As unexpected to you as it did to me. On Thursday October 17th my dad called me in the morning and told me that he needed to go to the hospital and for those of you who know him you know it had to be serious for him to voluntarily want to go in. His stomach was in agonizing pain. They did a CT scan, x-rays, and an ultrasound where they found out that his gallbladder was inflamed and he had possible spots on his liver. They admitted him into the hospital overnight to run some more tests and they had decided to do an EKG and colonoscopy to try and see what was going on. From there they found out that he had a bleeding ulcer and that his liver enzymes were really high this was due to the possible infection and inflammation of his gallbladder. They did surgery to take care of the ulcer. There was still pain and complications so they decided that a part of his gallbladder needed to be removed and they did surgery again on October 23rd. They said it would be a one to three hour surgery and it took the full 3 hours. I had found out that morning that he was having surgery, and he was expecting to get out of the hospital that night. I was at work when I received a call from the surgeon at 5:46 p.m. asking me for my consent to take him back into the operating room to attempt to save his life.. He just said that my dad was bleeding... At that time I was so in shock that I didn't even ask questions I gave them my consent and I got to the hospital as fast as I could. By the time I got there he was already in the operating room so we just waited for an update. The doctor came in and told us that he had two small lacerations on his liver that just wouldn't stop bleeding we also learned that in the process of doing this they found his liver full of cancer which made it very fragile and was how he ended up with the lacerations. The only thing that they could do left was put these sort of sponge type things on his liver to try and put consistant pressure on it and close him back up and hope the bleeding stops. Because of his enzymes being so off his blood wouldn't clot and so he just kept bleeding they gave him medications to help him clot they had platelets that they were giving him but he was losing so much blood that the medications were just coming right back out.. While we were at the hospital i heard 3 seperate times over the intercom "code blue" to his room number.. i learned that a code blue means that his heart stopped. Everytime his heart stopped they did CPR and it started again but it got to the point where they were giving him the max amount of medications and that was the only thing really keeping him alive. They told us that they would keep giving him medications and keep doing CPR as long as we wanted them to but CPR was only making things worse because it would just pump his blood back out.. We had to tell them not to do CPR again.. My dad passed away in the hospital at 4:30 a.m. on October 23rd. I do fully have the love and support of all of my family and my dad's family but I am his only relative in the state of Minnesota and a lot got put on me in a very short time. I have to take at least a week off of work to gather my dad's belongings and to try to cope and make arrangements for a service and so I'm hoping to find help in covering the expenses. Any money raised will go towards cremation and a burial as well as a service and a headstone. If there are any leftover funds it will be used for my gas to get back and forth.. I'm sorry if that all seemed sort of jumbled, when writing this it had been just over 12 hours since he passed and I couldn't stand to read it all again to make sure it makes sense. The pain and loss is still so fresh and it hasn't completely set in that this is actually real.. I want to thank everybody in advance for any kind of support recieved in helping me get through this absolutely heartbreaking time in my life.. It truly means so much..