Support Rhylee's Fight to Honor Her Father's Legacy

I cannot even begin to tell you how incredibly shocked and disheartened I am for finding myself in this situation. What I pray, is that if even just the message is made clear as to how incredibly important it is to discuss the desires of a loved one when passing to the point of putting into effect the motions to be made, please, do exactly that. Speak to your loved ones about what their dying wishes are, for their assets, their keepsakes, their money, all of it. Don't wait. Don't rely on having another day. It most certainly is not guaranteed.

Im incredibly aware of the fact that there are more deserving people in the world in need of your generosity. I am very much aware that what I am asking for, isn't life or death. It is selfish in that, none of you receive anything from this ask, other than knowing you will being helping someone desperately trying to save whats left of her fathers estate.

Many of you have said, and will say, "walk away" and I all can tell you is that it isn't in my heart to walk away. Not at this point. It is still very worth it to me to fight for my fathers belongings. It isn't something that will ease my mental stress or anxiety to simply walk away. It will destroy me just as much as having had to fight for nearly a year to save this estate has destroyed me. I have sincerely become unrecognizable even to myself. My light is gone, I've been unhappy, I'm sad, I'm angry and I have so much hate in my heart for people (family) I would have bet the entire estate upon, would have never have put me in this position.

To give you background, as I have been vague up until recently (on social media) as to the details of battling this probate nonsense, I will try and be as to the point and brief as possible so that you have the knowledge as to why and where your donations are being asked and administered.

I've always been close to my father. I visited him every year after having moved from Alaska to Florida. I called him EVERY SINGLE week, some times multiple times a week while also being sure to email him pictures of things/events I was doing so that he could be included as best I could offer (he didn't have instagram, my only social media platform). My father was sick most of my adult life. He was diabetic and insulin dependent. It was my thought, given that he had lost all ten of his toes, that he would somehow pass on due to an infection in his foot/wounds. It turned out, he gave up. He not only suffered from a stroke, had existing frontal lobe damage (unsure of how that came about prior to stroke), pneumonia, glaucoma and heart failure. He was a very thin man, age 69, and was often upset with how immobile he had become. The deterioration took a toll on his mental health and he ended up eating himself into what is known as a diabetic coma. Just two days after coming home from Bravocon 2023, I was unable to reach my father via phone or email and had found out that the same applied to a tenant on the property who called in a wellness check on him. The ambulance came with animal control and forceably removed my fathers dog from his restraints on the front porch (guarding the door) and broke into the home only to find his unconscious body lying in a pool of feces and blood in his living room. My sister and I were notified of this and that he was in ICU in Wasilla, Alaska on full life support at 11pm on November 11th, 2023. We both flew up the very next morning. My father passed away 4 days later on November 15th, 2023. I am unsure of whether or not he was aware of our presence as he was barely responsive, if you can even call it that. Our goodbyes felt unheard and my heart broke.

When he passed away, within minutes, we were told that we had to immediately notify the hospital staff as to where they were to send his body, which funeral home. My father was a veteran so of course, in our grief, we had to quickly try and deal with the VA, which proved fruitless, helpless and ineffective in any sort of assistance to someone that served his country and continued to pay his dues.

My sister returned home to Virginia where she had a family, a job, a home and several pets. I stayed behind as my "job" (tv, gig to gig, own businesses) afforded me the flexibility. I had saved roughly $100k from my last job and Bravo TV earnings from Bravocon to where I could comfortably look after the dog, the home and tend to the funeral expenses and necessary costs that occur when dealing with a death in the family.

My father had a will. It happened to be over 20 years old however and named someone executor that had, in the recent years, fallen out with my father. To put it frank, they were hardly friends and any relationship that remained was at the efforts of my father with unmatched energy. The will also stated my sister and I were to divide his belongings 50/50 after a few tangible items were left to others. I had advised this man of my fathers death and was met with a text response of "don't throw anything away, i have things there". Nothing heartfelt, no condolences just selfish greed. I immediately hired an attorney (that is not covered by estate money, but my own money) that I found who used to be magistrate in probate and thought, if anything, he would honorably represent me in what is fair, just and right with regards to the estate. I opened the floor for my sister to ask any questions, concerns, emails, etc at MY expense so she may also feel as though she was not excluded nor denied information pertinent to the settlement of the estate. It was her initial wish, in writing multiple times, to "gift" me the home while she took no interest in the home value but instead be given a few tangible items of her desire and whatever cash remained in my fathers account AFTER the executor was paid, bills were paid, etc.

For those of you that have followed along my social media, you have seen posts and stories of my maintenance, repairs and tedious time spent sorting through paperwork, bills, taxes, policies, mail, trash, and seeking to make improvements etc to the nearly 60 year old home, for the past 40 years that my father had saved up. To speak frankly, I was performing the duties of maintaining, caring for and providing the workload that an executor SHOULD have been doing. He initially stated to both my sister and me that he would renounce his executorship because he felt my sister and I should be the ones to handle the family matter. It wasn't until April, (five months after he passed, five months of me paying the bills, training the dog, tending to the property, etc) that he decided he no longer wished to renounce but will remain executor. At such time, he made no progression to pay any bills or offer maintenance to the estate, in fact, the opposite occurred as he also then refused to reimburse me for my expenses like gutter repairs, septic pump, furnace repairs and even threatened not only to evict me but to later charge me rent. Ten months after the passing of my father, he has finally taken over paying the bills and has made about $11k in reimbursements to me, currently short an additional approx $15k I am still owed.

Now to get to the crux of the issue...Ten months after my father passed, my sister had proposed the gifting of the home to me and the items she wished for in return. This proposal was presented not only to the executor but to his attorney and my own. My attorney at the time, failed to allow for the proper channels to be accounted for in such proceedings, refused to file a motion on my behalf requesting a judge step in and through outside sources I was able to find out, she in fact can disclaim her interest in any property/assets/inheritance left behind (anyone can) however, the executor made the disclaimer that "he did not find that proposal fair". It true, it isn't fair, not in monetary value, but it was something I assured my sister she needed to be okay with and then assured her in writing that even if that proposal was honored I would also still honor providing her 50% of the value of the home if ever it were sold despite her giving me full interest in the property. Fast forward I have relieved that attorney of further representing me for the sole reason of ineffective assistance of counsel. I filed two complaints with the Bar and was met with a response of, "find another attorney". I have but not after having to pay several more consult fees approx $350 each just to find one that very clearly sees the issues and wants nothing more from me but his paid time and for a resolution, like myself to come swiftly and as cost efficiently as possible.

A month after my father passed, i ordered what is called a market analysis from the realtor that my dad had a relationship with. This was provided with pictures I supplied the realtor via text/email of the property at the time of his death and came in at $253,210. I gave all parties a copy of the CMA and they sat on it for ten months. After ten months, the executor decided he "did not like that number" and went back and forth for weeks about ordering an appraisal. In the hopes to speed the process up (as my father had no debt but a mortgage on the home, all bills were paid and all that was left was dispersing the property of the estate in order to settle) I ordered an appraisal (again, out of pocket) by a third party, unbiased appraisal service. I advised them I did so to which the executor immediately called up the appraiser and demanded he be sent the copy (despite me advising them I ordered and would be providing to all parties once received, about a week later). Once received, I provided the copy of the more in-depth appraised value of the home which came in at $200k. There are not many 1 story, 1 bedroom, log cabin comps in this area that are in the state this home is in. The executor again responded with "thats too low" and told me he wanted the home valued now at the higher figure and that my sister no longer wanted to "gift" me the home but wanted me to buy her out in cash without the ability to offer partial payment via promissory note. I had expressed vehemently how inappropriate his OPINION is in this matter and advised him to stick to his fiduciary duties of acting in the best interest of the estate and the beneficiaries (plural as both my sister and I are in fact equal beneficiaries yet it seems he is making decisions to serve in her best interest while continuing to charge the estate for his "time". I have no idea why but whatever it looks like to you, the same has also crossed my mind.

This is where I now become uncertain and confused as to why the change in my sisters proposal but noticeably see her become aggressive towards me as my response aimed solely at the executor was that I would take him to court and sue him should he not honor his fiduciary duties and sell the home out from under my sister and me. My sister responded with calling me "selfish, contentious and making an enemy and that she wouldn't put it past me to sue her". Mind you, the executor has a history of suing people in the state of Alaska, not me. I myself do not wish to go down that route nor have I ever.

Since then, my sister has refused to speak to me about any proceedings, her desires, her wishes or her thoughts. She has expressed however, to me and family friends that she wishes to walk away with peace and has done all she can to give me what I want". What I have wanted and expressed since the very beginning and made very publicly clear , still to this very day, is that I want to honor my fathers wishes. My fathers wishes were to provide us with 50% each. I have continued to fight for that. I have not once denied her 50% and since she continues to express no interest in the home, I wish to own it for myself.

I have been told that the executor now speaks for my sister through the executors attorney. In the hopes of settling this matter again, swiftly and with the least amount of further out of pocket expenses of my own or via the executor draining the estate account, I offered a compromise of the two figures of a $225k value. The executor has just responded once again with a public filing ( for P-380, that I have asked my new attorney to object to) of a home value at $238,950. Which means, he wants me to pay my sister more than 50% of the actual appraised value of the home.

During all this, I have been robbed of the chance to grieve my fathers passing accordingly. I have spent nearly $60k of my own money to maintain, repair, care for and manage the estate, to include all assets. I have taken on a 136lb aggressive and unmanageable wolf dog that has now become my own beautiful companion, that would have been euthanized had I not picked him up from the shelter.

To fight for my fathers wishes in court would cost me a great deal more if not equal to the additional funds my sister is demanding in order to buy her out. My attorney fees not only accrue but they become exponentially larger with litigation costs versus just billable hours (if we go to court) as do the executors attorney fees which his are covered by the estate account, (ie my fathers money/my sister and mines inheritance). The estate account now sits at nearly half of what it once was, which after all this mess, is to be divided up between my sister and me (and my portion was going to go towards the buyout of the home).

To walk away from this is something that is not yet within me to do. My father worked hard for his home and his belongings. He overcame bankruptcy and he filled his home with collections and items that he cherished and that similarily he and I both shared very similar interests. I have done what I can to fight for this estate. I am seeking loan options however due to not enough credit history i am being rejected for a monetary value worth the help towards buyout.

I have worked on offering up a proposition to provide a FREE expertly guided hunt in Kodiak, Alaska fall of 2025 only to be told that it would be considered gambling which is illegal in the state of Alaska. I am currently working towards still offering the hunt up however, have to come up with a way that does so by eliminating the gambling aspect. I am diligently working towards this resolve so that I am able to ask you all for something that isn't without me trying to have something to give back in return. I feel degraded and disgusted that I am having to beg and grovel for financial help, but I also feel that if I don't do every single thing that I legally can do to save this home so that I may continue to live in it, care for it, honor it, cherish it and continue to love it in my fathers memory, then I don't deserve it.

If i lose this home, i lose all my hard work and efforts in this past year. Tulick becomes displaced (as he is not an easy dog to relocate nor are there many options due to his size and temperament not to mention his inability to be able to properly adjust to alternate climate conditions) and the tenant that has lived here, a friend to my father and to me, who brilliantly called the wellness check that got my father into the hospital so that we may, at the very least, lay our hands on him before he left us, also looses his home (a small, dry, log cabin on the property corner lot).

I lose what my father left behind. I've already lost my sister in this battle. I am filled with so much anger and so much hate for two people that I am afraid I wont know how to forgive. I know, I will never forgive this executor but I am scared of the hate and how long I will sit with it for my sister.

I am asking for your help to save my fathers home. I am asking for your help in affording me the opportunity to pay the extra tens of thousands of dollars they are demanding and if not that, then the extra tens of thousands of dollars to fight for what is fair and just in court, and in hopes that a judge is able to come to a fair and just decision with the collection of written evidence provided.

Whatever, you can afford please know, I will be eternally grateful, no matter what happens. Please know that I am not without the insight as to more pertinent or desperate situations than my own, and please know that every penny will go towards purchasing this home in order to love it unconditionally and with all my effort and energy.

Thank you, sincerely.

Rhylee