Support Shai to Clear Debts for their Mother's Recovery

My name is Nisha, and I was connected to Shai through Instagram. I always enjoyed their poetry and vulnerability about their challenges as a Dalit transqueer human trying to survive in India. After they started sharing about their mother and her health issues, it broke my heart to see how generational trauma caused by caste oppression and transphobia. It is because of policies and discrimination that they are in a position where they need this help.

I'm fundraising for $23,000 USD to cover their ongoing debt, any administrative fees, as well as wire transfer fees.

Here's a message from Shai:

About me- I am Shailesh. My preferred name is Shai. My pronouns are he and they. I am a Dalit Trans queer HIV poz individual. I suffer from diabetes and BPD, which results in extreme anxiety and depression. I come from a Dalit, low-income family. I am the sole caretaker of the house. My family consists of my mother and me.

About my mother

My mother, Nanda Thakkar, aged 64 suffers from disability due to her neuropathy condition and recent HIP Replacement Surgery. She has been ill since 2017. She suffers from diabetes and high blood pressure, which has resulted in her first paralysis attack in 2017. The cost of living for my mother has increased since Covid-19. She was diagnosed with COVID twice.

Since then, her bodily strength has decreased. She is always anxious about everything in life. We had to go to the hospital multiple times for her betterment. Recently, she had an ovarian cyst surgery. Later in the surgical area, she developed a Hernia. The misery didn't end there, she developed gallbladder stones which resulted in removing the gallbladder.

The reason for taking the loan was my mother's severe illness since COVID. She has multiple illnesses and has gone through various surgeries. She is currently disabled and bedridden. She is on multiple medications and is taking physiotherapy at the moment. Currently, she is diagnosed with long COVID.

My condition

Taking care of my mother is not easy. I had to appoint a caretaker for her 24/7. She is heavy and requires constant attention to move her body to protect her from bed sores. To make her walk, I have appointed a physiotherapist. He is trying his best to make her sit, stand and walk.

I do not earn, I live on fundraisers. My mother wants my constant presence in the house. Hence, I am also looking for WFH.

I spend approx 1 lac and 60 thousand in taking care of my mother. The distribution is as such, the caretaker takes 19,500 once every fifteen days. The physiotherapist takes 800 for everyday visits. Her medicine costs approximately 15 thousand a month. The nurse charges 500 for a once-a-week visit. The doctor charges 2 thousand for online consultations.

Besides this, there are diapers, hand gloves, sanitiser, wet wipes, cotton rolls, and tissue paper. Importantly, the ration and light bill cost us a fortune as my mother is on air bed 24/7.

Given her and my physical and mental health, I'm paying a lot of sums to multiple lenders. Starting from DMI Finance, Hero Fincorp, Navi, Kissth, Paytm, Kotak, kreditbee, and etc.

I plan to foreclose all the loans and focus on my mother, health, and education.

For that I will require, I'm trying to explain this to you all step by step—

Paytm- INR 1,74,000 | Dmi finance- INR 73,553 | Kreditbee - INR 72,945 | Navi- INR 4,49,988 | kotak- INR 3,00,000 | Kissth- INR 17,500 | Stashfin- INR 62,797 | ICICI- INR 1,50,000 approximately | HSBC- INR 1,00,000 approximately | RBL- INR 25,000/- | Axio (Amazon affilated)- INR 90,000 approximately | HDFC- INR 60,000 approximately |

Total— INR 15,75,763 or USD approx 20,000.

This debt is not just a financial burden—it affects my ability to study further or focus on my newfound job.

But here's the good news: With your help, I can overcome this hurdle. Regardless of size, your contribution will directly support the debt repayment and enable me to refocus on my education.

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