Unexpected loss of Chrissy Tozer

It is such a heavy thing to hear that your friend has died. Chrissy Tozer and I have been friends forever... while there are gaps between when we talked, when we did, it was like no time had passed.

Chrissy was known for being the quiet one, and then she'd shoot out something hilarious. And it was the best. The kindness from her heart I think literally killed her. So many memories have flooded me the past 18 hours of how significant she was in my life. And I don't know now that she ever knew how important she was to me while growing up, and now.
(Chrissy and I in gr.12)

Her family was my second family for years... I'd spend days upon days at Mrs&Mr.Tozers house, one summer I practically lived there. It didn't matter if I slept on the floor, a bed, couch, I had my best friend. We would laugh about how Chrissy would sleep walk, and do stupid stuff like cut her hair in her sleep... or try to call people.... We shaved my head once because I was tired of my hair. We went to Canada's Wonderland on Sears day so many times in the jam packed VW Jetta... 4-5 adults in a Jetta is tight, but we didn't care. We walked from Bayside to Trenton and back for no reason so many times. We went from being immature kids, to teens to adults... having to deal with real adult shit like burying babies.

When we lost our son Adrian, it killed me. And then Larry and Chrissy lost their baby girl Sarah, and that killed me even more... It didn't make any sense. How could this happen? Our babies are buried beside each other.  Was it was meant to be? Maybe. Who knows. But that's how important we are to each other. It just made sense for them to be together.

We all had children near in age. And we did the busy life, busy family thing... and now she's gone. Forever. There are no words.
(Karly and my daughter Ava)
(Chrissy and Alexis)

(Matthew and Chrissy's first photo together, when I went to visit at Sick Kids)

(Chrissy and her niece Angelina)

(Chrissy being Chrissy... sweet and sassy. She never really was one for getting her photo taken or shared.)

Saturday she wasnt feeling well. Went to TMH, they did some tests and said her heart wasn't functioning properly. They sent her to BGH, who then sent her to KGH. Sunday she appeared to be doing better, the hospital said that her Larry could go home take care of the kids shower etc. They were home 2 hours, when the call came in from the hospital. They said she's in critical care, and they need to get back ASAP. She died before they got there to say their goodbyes. She had no one but hospital heros with her, trying their hardest to keep her with us.

My best friend is gone... but so is a mother, daughter, partner, sister, aunt, cousin, and most importantly a good human.

(Nan, Chrissy and Matthew)

Please donate if you can, funds will be used by the family to assist in any financial needs.  Funeral costs, home finances, time off to grieve without fear of income loss, for any needs of the children. If you are unable to donate, please share with anyone who may have known Chrissy.

(Larry and their children Karly, Alexis and Matthew)

If you pray, please keep her in your prayers. Keep her husband Larry and their children in your prayers. Pray for their family members who are hurting. If praying is not your thing, please send healing to them however you can.

(Chrissy last week at work... she worked ar Rexall/Pharmaplus for so long. At least 15 years.)