Losing our home in 20 days
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My name is Paula Profit and I’m a single mother to an amazing special needs child named Aiden. Aiden has multiple disabilities including Autism, ADHD, ODD, Anxiety, Epilepsy, Asthma, Allergies, PTSD(weather related) and more.
Aiden is and always will be the most important person in my life (aside from God) and I will do whatever it takes to see to it my child never goes with out. I’m not one to ask for help and have been against doing this however, I’ve tried everything possible to avoid this. I use to be able to sell items on Facebook to make ends meet. Due to facebooks marketplace and their policies I along with thousands of others constantly get blocked from marketplace after posting one item. I have to swallow my pride and ask for help in saving the only home Aiden has known.
Last year July 8, 2017 Aiden’s father Jeremy Adkins walked out of our life with no explanation to Aiden. This was no surprise to me as this was an abusive marriage for over 17 years where I stayed with a man who had over 10+ affairs while I remained faithful and put up with the abuse for my child. Jeremy has refused to maintain any consistent type of relationship with his son. He packed up and moved to Delaware in April and hasn’t spoke to his son since 2 days before he left. He has continued to tell lies about me and stating I am keeping him from “talking” to his son. My phone records state otherwise. He Furthermore at our one and only court hearing (for the divorce) in November he lied to the judge committing numerous counts of perjury pertaining to his income. I do have the evidence to present to the judge once we go back. At this particular hearing the judge denied any type of child support or maintenance due to Jeremy lying about his wages. He claimed unemployment (laid off from AK Steel and refused to work at other AK facilities) claimed financial aide on a household of three, and worked under the table for Reggie’s Attic working estate sales that can and will be proven before the judge. The judge granted no child support or maintenance leaving me to care for Aiden, all the utilities, all the bills, care for 6 cats, 2 dogs, and 3 chickens. Two days after this court date I had to get an EPO against Jeremy for reasons I wish not to disclose.
Jeremy lived with his parents and had no bills as he let all his bills turn over to collections he lived a life of freedom with multiple girlfriends splurging on them while refusing to provide a single cent to support his son.
I have continued for a year to repeatedly ask for support to help provide for Aiden. I use to work and have an Associates Degree I am unable to use due to Aidens needs. The only place I could work would be within the school system to have the exact same hours as him and be at the school as needed to help redirect him. Aiden is on a waiver program that does provide me with financial support however it is not enough to cover everything with no support from his father. I do not have credit debt except a vehicle and the home. I do not splurge or spend excessively. I have been able to maintain everything up until the last 3 months. I have never once put my child second or neglected any of his needs like his father has.
On June 6, 2018 I had asked Jeremy to help get Aiden a new mattress as his is in very poor shape. I sent along with this request pictures proving why he needed a new mattress. Jeremy’s exact words were
“Stop harassing me about your money problems. You need to figure out your own finances.
Stop harassing me about money. This is my official request. I will not respond unless it’s my son calling or an emergency. “
the very next next day he purchased him and his newest girlfriend tickets to a Dave Matthews concert totaling $211. How do I know this? Because he boasts on his Instagram account about his spending and what a great father he is.
We were due in court for a final hearing June 14, 2018 the day after my mother’s funeral. Jeremy had sent an email to the courthouse directed at the judge “DRC” stating he could not attend due to being in Delaware and working. He never sent a work schedule or any details as to a good reason to cancel when he had plenty of notice to attend. The judge “DRC” opted to cancel court that date and allow this case to continue to be drug out even farther allowing me to lose the house which Jeremy has been notified of the foreclosure many times and refused to provide a single cent. Today I reached out to Jeremy’s parents (Aiden’s grandparents ) for help. They told me they would not help it wasn’t up to them and they can’t help everyone. Sorry about your luck. Perfect example of loving grandparents.
Im requesting a different venue for the final court hearing so I am not sure when that will be as of now. Starting July 1 my home will be 3 months past due. With the income I have now there is no way I can bring the house current which is why I am here now. Once The court forces him to pay (he works at DuPont in delware making over $25 an hour) then I will be able to maintain everything.
The last year has been an extremely difficult one for both Aiden and myself. I was hoping to have this nightmare behind us by now. On June 10, 2018 I lost my mother to the cruel disease of dementia. Her birthday was yesterday June 16, 2018 she would have been 72. Yesterday we got the news from my dads Dr. he has stage 4 cancer. He as well won’t be here much longer. My son has been thru a lot in his short 10years his dad walks out, his grandmother dies, and now his grandfather is also dying. I don’t want my son to know the struggles I have faced with his father and how he doesn’t care about his child. Instead I have taught my son to pray for his father. He’s old enough to know his dad is absent in his life, he’s old enough to know the phone doesn’t ring with his dad on the other line, he tries to call his dad who doesn’t answer. I can tell him his dad loves him and he’s still his dad but how can you stop a child from developing the emptiness of their father not wanting to be in their lives? I don’t want my child to also lose the only home he has ever known. In the future we have talked about selling this place and having a fresh new start to make new memories together just Aiden and I.
Please if you can help in any way it would be greatly appreciated. I don’t like to ask for help and I try to remain strong for my child but facing the possibility of losing my home I’ve had for over 17 years I’m at a loss. I set it for $3,000 to assure I will have enough to catch up the House after the gofund me fees are taken. If I reach that goal anything over that will be applied to the house and providing for Aiden’s needs such as the bed his father and grandparents refused to help with. Thank you for taking the time in reading this if you are unable to help financially please share and send prayers. God is the one who has got us this far and I keep my faith in him he will always provide.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” philippians 4:13
Aiden is and always will be the most important person in my life (aside from God) and I will do whatever it takes to see to it my child never goes with out. I’m not one to ask for help and have been against doing this however, I’ve tried everything possible to avoid this. I use to be able to sell items on Facebook to make ends meet. Due to facebooks marketplace and their policies I along with thousands of others constantly get blocked from marketplace after posting one item. I have to swallow my pride and ask for help in saving the only home Aiden has known.
Last year July 8, 2017 Aiden’s father Jeremy Adkins walked out of our life with no explanation to Aiden. This was no surprise to me as this was an abusive marriage for over 17 years where I stayed with a man who had over 10+ affairs while I remained faithful and put up with the abuse for my child. Jeremy has refused to maintain any consistent type of relationship with his son. He packed up and moved to Delaware in April and hasn’t spoke to his son since 2 days before he left. He has continued to tell lies about me and stating I am keeping him from “talking” to his son. My phone records state otherwise. He Furthermore at our one and only court hearing (for the divorce) in November he lied to the judge committing numerous counts of perjury pertaining to his income. I do have the evidence to present to the judge once we go back. At this particular hearing the judge denied any type of child support or maintenance due to Jeremy lying about his wages. He claimed unemployment (laid off from AK Steel and refused to work at other AK facilities) claimed financial aide on a household of three, and worked under the table for Reggie’s Attic working estate sales that can and will be proven before the judge. The judge granted no child support or maintenance leaving me to care for Aiden, all the utilities, all the bills, care for 6 cats, 2 dogs, and 3 chickens. Two days after this court date I had to get an EPO against Jeremy for reasons I wish not to disclose.
Jeremy lived with his parents and had no bills as he let all his bills turn over to collections he lived a life of freedom with multiple girlfriends splurging on them while refusing to provide a single cent to support his son.
I have continued for a year to repeatedly ask for support to help provide for Aiden. I use to work and have an Associates Degree I am unable to use due to Aidens needs. The only place I could work would be within the school system to have the exact same hours as him and be at the school as needed to help redirect him. Aiden is on a waiver program that does provide me with financial support however it is not enough to cover everything with no support from his father. I do not have credit debt except a vehicle and the home. I do not splurge or spend excessively. I have been able to maintain everything up until the last 3 months. I have never once put my child second or neglected any of his needs like his father has.
On June 6, 2018 I had asked Jeremy to help get Aiden a new mattress as his is in very poor shape. I sent along with this request pictures proving why he needed a new mattress. Jeremy’s exact words were
“Stop harassing me about your money problems. You need to figure out your own finances.
Stop harassing me about money. This is my official request. I will not respond unless it’s my son calling or an emergency. “
the very next next day he purchased him and his newest girlfriend tickets to a Dave Matthews concert totaling $211. How do I know this? Because he boasts on his Instagram account about his spending and what a great father he is.
We were due in court for a final hearing June 14, 2018 the day after my mother’s funeral. Jeremy had sent an email to the courthouse directed at the judge “DRC” stating he could not attend due to being in Delaware and working. He never sent a work schedule or any details as to a good reason to cancel when he had plenty of notice to attend. The judge “DRC” opted to cancel court that date and allow this case to continue to be drug out even farther allowing me to lose the house which Jeremy has been notified of the foreclosure many times and refused to provide a single cent. Today I reached out to Jeremy’s parents (Aiden’s grandparents ) for help. They told me they would not help it wasn’t up to them and they can’t help everyone. Sorry about your luck. Perfect example of loving grandparents.
Im requesting a different venue for the final court hearing so I am not sure when that will be as of now. Starting July 1 my home will be 3 months past due. With the income I have now there is no way I can bring the house current which is why I am here now. Once The court forces him to pay (he works at DuPont in delware making over $25 an hour) then I will be able to maintain everything.
The last year has been an extremely difficult one for both Aiden and myself. I was hoping to have this nightmare behind us by now. On June 10, 2018 I lost my mother to the cruel disease of dementia. Her birthday was yesterday June 16, 2018 she would have been 72. Yesterday we got the news from my dads Dr. he has stage 4 cancer. He as well won’t be here much longer. My son has been thru a lot in his short 10years his dad walks out, his grandmother dies, and now his grandfather is also dying. I don’t want my son to know the struggles I have faced with his father and how he doesn’t care about his child. Instead I have taught my son to pray for his father. He’s old enough to know his dad is absent in his life, he’s old enough to know the phone doesn’t ring with his dad on the other line, he tries to call his dad who doesn’t answer. I can tell him his dad loves him and he’s still his dad but how can you stop a child from developing the emptiness of their father not wanting to be in their lives? I don’t want my child to also lose the only home he has ever known. In the future we have talked about selling this place and having a fresh new start to make new memories together just Aiden and I.
Please if you can help in any way it would be greatly appreciated. I don’t like to ask for help and I try to remain strong for my child but facing the possibility of losing my home I’ve had for over 17 years I’m at a loss. I set it for $3,000 to assure I will have enough to catch up the House after the gofund me fees are taken. If I reach that goal anything over that will be applied to the house and providing for Aiden’s needs such as the bed his father and grandparents refused to help with. Thank you for taking the time in reading this if you are unable to help financially please share and send prayers. God is the one who has got us this far and I keep my faith in him he will always provide.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” philippians 4:13
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Ashland, KY