Richard Bellamey Emergency Fund
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I do not expect to reach the lofty goal of £200,000 it is a figure I would love to reach for my father but anything helps! Please read on and share this campaign.
Hello, my name is Mathew Bellamey, I am 25 as of the start of this campaign. I am proud to say that I am the son of the man in the photograph who I am starting the campaign for. I guess the best way to start this is from the beginning, so here goes.
In the past I lived with my father, mother and two sisters quite happily until 2007 when Grimsby and other areas of the country had torrential downpours causing mass flooding. Unfortunately our house was one of the worst hit with water coming up to my waist (I was 6ft, 1in at the time), we kids lost our childhood property and my father lost the dream property he had worked so hard for nearly all his working life. But worse was yet to come.
Just after the flooding of the house my mother decided to tear the family apart, furthering our turmoil by cheating on my father and ultimately using us (the children) as weapons, with me being 16 at the time, my elder sister being 18 and my younger sister being 13.
My father tried to patch the relationship back together, with him now living at his recently deceased mothers empty house and us three kids living with my mother in temporary accomodation, a trailer until insurance money and money from selling the flooded property arrived. The relationships he was patching was both between him and my mother and him and us kids as my mother was painting my father as the devil, dripping poison into our ears even though he had done nothing wrong.
My father, fighting a losing battle and in desperation to gain some 'control' of the situation went to the empty husk of our rotten, decomposing house and tried to overdose on painkillers. Luckily he was found in time before the damage was irreversible and treated in hospital.
When I realised what was occurring I decided to live with my father, especially when I was given the ultimatum from my mother that "If you don't like the man who am I with then you can f**k off". Why my other two sisters stayed with my mother, I do not know.
Another issue was that for some twenty years my father had built up a few scaffolding businesses under names such as R&S Scaffolding and MatNic Scaffolding and had built a good reputation in Grimsby and surrounding areas, but due to a company defaulting on him in the past he was declared bankrupt and, by law, could not register himself as the head of the new scaffolding business that he established. To start a new one up he put the business in my mothers name, trusting her entirely, this backfired tremendously. During her cheating just to spite my father she started selling assets of the scaffolding business away to stop my father earning a living and being able to support both himself and me.
My mother then dragged my father through the courts, not for custody of us children but for the insurance money for the flooded property, money for the sale of the flooded house and also for a cut of the money of my fathers inheritence from his recently deceased mother. My father did not wish to go to court but my mother insisted. The judge in the court sided with my mother and split the money 80/20 in her favour.
Just to put this injustice into perspective my mother had not worked a day in her married life and took everything from my father. When they first got together he had a property that was nearly fully paid for which was sold to buy the house that flooded and my mother never worked, even though my father, to support us, was not only doing scaffolding but a bouncing castle business called Clowning Around as well, working himself ragged for his family's sake.
Me and my father scrimped and saved money, the piddly amount which my father was awarded in the court proceeding dried up quickly and he suffered depression after losing everything. We had to rely on my fathers brothers to help us and in the end they betrayed us too by charging my father for the help we received, even though we believed they were helping us from the goodness of their hearts.
Eventually me and my father left his mothers property and are renting acommodation, I managed to get into university and worked to help my dad with living costs, he also worked but could not do the one job he loved; scaffolding due to not being able to afford a passport to safety and is, even now, working in a fish factory.
I am now also suffering anxiety and depression and cannot work for quite some time, I am receiving counselling and am on anti-depressents. I also feel like I need to get some control in life and decided to appeal for aid for my father, as I am living with him and feel like a weight on him that he should not have to deal with. Please help him.
To help my father I wish to:
1. Raise money to help pay various utility and loan bills that my father has amassed to keep me and him afloat.
2. Raise enough money to get back his pension, which was taken from him by the UK Government when he was declared bankrupt, so that he can live a comfortable life as he is now rapidly reaching retirement age (he is 62 this year).
Hello, my name is Mathew Bellamey, I am 25 as of the start of this campaign. I am proud to say that I am the son of the man in the photograph who I am starting the campaign for. I guess the best way to start this is from the beginning, so here goes.
In the past I lived with my father, mother and two sisters quite happily until 2007 when Grimsby and other areas of the country had torrential downpours causing mass flooding. Unfortunately our house was one of the worst hit with water coming up to my waist (I was 6ft, 1in at the time), we kids lost our childhood property and my father lost the dream property he had worked so hard for nearly all his working life. But worse was yet to come.
Just after the flooding of the house my mother decided to tear the family apart, furthering our turmoil by cheating on my father and ultimately using us (the children) as weapons, with me being 16 at the time, my elder sister being 18 and my younger sister being 13.
My father tried to patch the relationship back together, with him now living at his recently deceased mothers empty house and us three kids living with my mother in temporary accomodation, a trailer until insurance money and money from selling the flooded property arrived. The relationships he was patching was both between him and my mother and him and us kids as my mother was painting my father as the devil, dripping poison into our ears even though he had done nothing wrong.
My father, fighting a losing battle and in desperation to gain some 'control' of the situation went to the empty husk of our rotten, decomposing house and tried to overdose on painkillers. Luckily he was found in time before the damage was irreversible and treated in hospital.
When I realised what was occurring I decided to live with my father, especially when I was given the ultimatum from my mother that "If you don't like the man who am I with then you can f**k off". Why my other two sisters stayed with my mother, I do not know.
Another issue was that for some twenty years my father had built up a few scaffolding businesses under names such as R&S Scaffolding and MatNic Scaffolding and had built a good reputation in Grimsby and surrounding areas, but due to a company defaulting on him in the past he was declared bankrupt and, by law, could not register himself as the head of the new scaffolding business that he established. To start a new one up he put the business in my mothers name, trusting her entirely, this backfired tremendously. During her cheating just to spite my father she started selling assets of the scaffolding business away to stop my father earning a living and being able to support both himself and me.
My mother then dragged my father through the courts, not for custody of us children but for the insurance money for the flooded property, money for the sale of the flooded house and also for a cut of the money of my fathers inheritence from his recently deceased mother. My father did not wish to go to court but my mother insisted. The judge in the court sided with my mother and split the money 80/20 in her favour.
Just to put this injustice into perspective my mother had not worked a day in her married life and took everything from my father. When they first got together he had a property that was nearly fully paid for which was sold to buy the house that flooded and my mother never worked, even though my father, to support us, was not only doing scaffolding but a bouncing castle business called Clowning Around as well, working himself ragged for his family's sake.
Me and my father scrimped and saved money, the piddly amount which my father was awarded in the court proceeding dried up quickly and he suffered depression after losing everything. We had to rely on my fathers brothers to help us and in the end they betrayed us too by charging my father for the help we received, even though we believed they were helping us from the goodness of their hearts.
Eventually me and my father left his mothers property and are renting acommodation, I managed to get into university and worked to help my dad with living costs, he also worked but could not do the one job he loved; scaffolding due to not being able to afford a passport to safety and is, even now, working in a fish factory.
I am now also suffering anxiety and depression and cannot work for quite some time, I am receiving counselling and am on anti-depressents. I also feel like I need to get some control in life and decided to appeal for aid for my father, as I am living with him and feel like a weight on him that he should not have to deal with. Please help him.
To help my father I wish to:
1. Raise money to help pay various utility and loan bills that my father has amassed to keep me and him afloat.
2. Raise enough money to get back his pension, which was taken from him by the UK Government when he was declared bankrupt, so that he can live a comfortable life as he is now rapidly reaching retirement age (he is 62 this year).
Organizer
Mathew Bellamey
Organizer