Help me save my family

After moving into our house we had some issues where we fell behind in bills due to Billys memory issues from his brain tumor and he did want to worry me since I was having a difficult pregnancy with our unexpected miracle baby Joy Joy(2 years old). By the time I was made aware things were a real mess and I had to file chapter 13 to save our home. But since then money has been really tight barely making ends meet especially with it being Haliegh's (17 years old) senior year. So once again I missed a couple payments on our second car trying to pay for food. and other bills always trying to catch up but something always happens. Now our home owners association has turned us in to the city cause we haven't fixed the trim on our house and replaced a peice of siding that fell off the porch. But Billy can't climb ladders cause of the brain tumor and chance he could have a seizure and I'm at work. We couldn't afford to pay to have it done. So now we have less than 30 days to get that fixed. The VA sent a letter saying they are going to cut Billys disability in three months if we can't get them to change their minds from 100% to 60% The banrupcy lawyer says we will loose the house for sure if that happens. If I dont get the rears paid on the car they can cancel my banruptcy and I can loose my home. I am trying to sell my other truck but no one wants to buy it. I am trying to work more hours but its not helping. The stress is taking its toll and I have medical bills I can't even pay. I can't even go to the doctor right now cause I owe them money another reason for them to cancel my bankruptcy. I keep praying knowing god has a plan. I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Heather should(20 years old) should be in college but has been working and trying to help out. None of our family can help. I am desperate. I hate to ask for help like this. But I don't know what else to do. Otherwise I might loose my car and my home. I am trying so hard to keep it all together. Its hard Billy is so stressed and angry we barely talk cause he can't get past those two emotions and seeing me upset makes him more angry. I need the VA the understand he was at his appointment alone and didn't remember all his issues. He has a brain tumor for goodness sake. He's a 20 year veteran for goodness sake. He deserves to be taken care of. I really desperatelly need help from anyone who is blessed enough to give it. I promise when I am stable again to always pay it foward like you have done for us today in the future.